I hear versions of these two sentences constantly. "When he's upset with me or disappointed in me, I can't tolerate it. I'll just do whatever I have to do to make sure he's not angry with me." "I know what my partner likes, so I just make sure to arrange things to her liking. That way there's no ...

I forgot to actually include the link in that last email. Hey, I did say I was in vacation mode, right?!  Here it is. I hope you enjoy the read! (In it, I answer the difference between Relational Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence, in case you're curious.) And here it is again: The Relationa...

This week I'm writing the newsletter from the beach, deep in vacation mode. I'm grateful for these chances to reset my nervous system and get some perspective. Which is maybe why I've been thinking about relational intelligence a lot over these past few days. It's essentially the premier social s...

True confession here: I'm a tennis nerd. I took up the sport about three years ago and, over time, it has met multiple needs in my life. Friendship, adrenaline, exercise, strategic thinking, and plenty of room for growth.   This past week at a tennis clinic, my instructor said something that rea...