What Should We Talk About?

Aug 19, 2026

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This fall I'm trying something new.

I'm going to offer a webinar and I'd love to hear what would be most interesting for you.

Whichever one wins, I'll teach it live and free in September/October, so vote for what you actually want help with!

Options:

Fawning As the 4th Trauma Response (the people-pleasing one nobody talks about)
Enmeshment and Differentiation in Relationships: Striking the Right Balance
When (and why!) Avoiding Vulnerability Looks Like Strength

Other Ideas are also welcome ✨

Here's a Google Form for your response (it'll take you <30 seconds, I promise!)

Feedback, Please!

I would love to hear your thoughts on my upcoming webinar!

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In other news, I started a blog this week 🎉

You can check out my first couple of posts here: How Do You Know That You're Comfortable? and What's Self-Abandonment?

Thank you for reading and spending some of your time with me,

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